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Insecurity ruining friendship

Dear Annie: I have a friend who I have known for many years, and suddenly I have noticed that she is getting possessive with me. She just wants to see me alone, and she questions whether or not I’m seeing other friends when I can’t see her at a certain time. She makes comments about how ...

Kicking the coffee habit

Dear Annie: I used to drink coffee only now and then, just for enjoyment. But since my job has become more intense and stressful, I’ve found myself needing at least a cup a day to keep me alert and functioning at full capacity. I don’t like that I’m dependent on caffeine now. I notice ...

Why won’t US politicians talk about Chinese authoritarianism?

Given the recent fight over whether U.S. refugee detention centers are in fact “concentration camps,” the Trump administration might want to borrow a page from the Chinese and simply call them “vocational skills education training centers.” That way, no one would really care at ...

In the absence of Republican courage, more children will die

It is 2:30 in the morning, and I should be sleeping. In a few hours, my 3-year-old grandson will be awake, and we have plans. “You and me, buddy,” I told him at bedtime. “We’re going to play all day long.” He is not why I can’t sleep. Across the hall from this guestroom, his ...

Techy toilet troubles

Dear Readers: A recent column talked about someone being grossed out when entering a bathroom stall because the previous occupant failed to flush. I was pretty hard on that previous occupant, assuming they were at fault. Quite a few readers pointed out that this might have been a problem of ...

Family still Hayes’ first priority

To the outside world, Jaxson Hayes is an athletically-blessed 6-foot-11 man-child. An uber prospect who is just getting started at 19 years old. The freshman of the year in the Big 12. A Top-10 pick in last week’s NBA Draft, and a soon-to-be multi-millionaire. To the family of Fort ...

Overcoming insensitive comments

Dear Annie: I endured a very traumatic childhood. I was verbally abused. I was physically abused. I was sexually abused and raped. I’m writing because I want to know the best way to respond to ignorant and insensitive remarks about my childhood. I have been told, “just leave it in the ...

The circular firing squad

Mo Udall, the legendary Democratic congressman from Arizona, was brutally candid about his party’s bad habit of succumbing to intramural recriminations that became the political equivalent of a civil war in the leper colony. “When Democrats organize a firing squad, they form a circle,” ...

What a border crisis looks like

News flash: There’s a crisis at the border. This was discovered again over the past few days when immigration attorneys talked to reporters about appalling conditions at a Border Patrol facility detaining migrant minors in Clint, Texas. According to the lawyers, many of the kids had to ...

Feeling obligated to see grandfather

Dear Annie: My grandfather was violently abusive to his wife, and then his daughter (my mother), and then to me. He was also very racist — he punished me for having a black friend in grade school — and just generally cruel. Now, his health is not so good, and his old age has mellowed him ...

Time’s up for mandatory high heels

Just think about it: a clothing item that permanently disfigures a body part, encouraging nerve growths that set off shooting pain. Fashionwise, it telegraphs sexual availability. And amazingly, some employers demand that their female workers wear this cause of physical agony to the ...

Parking problems

Dear Annie: I hope this is not out of your area, but I have a parking-related question for you. We have a neighbor who always says, “Don’t park in front of my house.” This guy and his family are not very polite, and they will run outside and start arguments and create scenes if you try to ...

No longer feeling like a priority

Dear Annie: As much as I hate to admit it, I think about divorce practically every day. Divorce, however, isn’t something I want. What I want is for my husband to understand my point of view — which is why I’m writing this letter. He reads your column religiously. Maybe my words will sink ...

Can government punish twice for the same crime?

“...nor shall any person be subject for the same offense to be twice put in jeopardy of life or limb...” —Fifth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution The government in America is out of control. Last week, this column discussed the unconstitutional efforts of federal prosecutors in ...

Folding on this bridge game

Dear Annie: A few years ago, I joined a duplicate bridge group in town and got paired with an older man who had just broken up with his partner. He taught beginner classes and was a great help in getting me up to speed with modern conventions, as it had been years since I’d played. We did ...

Advantage: Trump

The past week has provided plenty of proof that beating Donald Trump in 2020 is going to be a lot harder than the Democrats (and their cheerleaders in the media and Hollywood) would like to believe. Let’s start with his rally in Orlando Tuesday night. That was the official announcement of ...

A day to remember

Dear Annie: I wanted to send you my observation about your advice and columns: You are outstanding! Your replies are heartfelt, and I feel your compassion. Thank you. — A Friendly Reader Dear Friendly Reader: You made my day — thank YOU! Dear Readers: Isn’t it great when things go ...

Must we wage war with Iran?

“The Pentagon has released new color photos as proof that Iran was behind last week’s attack on two oil tankers in the Gulf of Oman,” ABC News reported. Hours before that attack, Iranians launched surface-to-air missile at a U.S. drone monitoring the tankers. The missile missed. In ...

Talking over a loud speaker

Dear Annie: I need to vent here. I have a group of girlfriends, and there is one, “Melanie,” who dominates the conversation. Melanie’s voice is louder than mine so if I am telling a story or asking a question, she will just blare out whatever is on her mind. Another annoying habit: Even ...

Distraction-free dining

Dear Annie: I’m sitting at Reagan National Airport close to dinnertime. There are limited options for seats and tables for people to eat at. You know the scene — folks standing behind diners who look to be finished. There is a mother and two daughters who, from the look of the trash ...