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Unemployed and sluggish

Dear Annie: I have read columns like yours since I was a child in the 1980s and always figured, “Yeah, I have problems, but I can handle them.” I guess not. I am in my mid-40s and have two kids and a husband who keeps a roof over my head. I am unemployed, recently losing my job with family ...

His girls come first

Dear Annie: I’ve been dating a gentle, kind and loving man for a while. He goes to church, constantly reads his Bible and plays Christian music. We get along great. We have conversations for hours, and we laugh and cry together. But the problem is that he is so close to his three grown ...

Fluent in just one language

Dear Annie: I’ve always been great at gift-giving. I enjoy giving others things that they will thoroughly enjoy. But others are rarely as good at getting gifts for me. I don’t think I should feel bad for being a little materialistic; I think everyone likes getting thoughtful presents. I ...

Clique here

Dear Annie: I am still in high school, meaning that having an interconnected friend group is very important. In my friend group, we generally invite everyone to gatherings if possible, and if not everyone can attend, we keep social media posts to a minimum so people don’t feel as if they ...

Whistled for interference

Dear Annie: My ex-daughter-in-law believes that her 10-year-old son, my grandson, has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. She has thought this ever since he had trouble on day one of his school career. To combat this problem, we tried martial arts, but she pulled him out of that because ...

Grandparents are past abusers

Dear Annie: I’m engaged to an amazing man, and we spend our days in a cute little house with our wonderful daughter. I sincerely have few complaints about my life. Alas, there is one dark cloud that I can’t seem to shake. My husband has a complicated relationship with his parents, and it ...

A ‘natural’ woman

Dear Annie: My adult daughter recently visited from out of state, and she has developed some odd and off-putting habits. I really don’t mean to judge her, but I’d also like to help her. At the same time, if I said anything, she might run a hundred miles in the opposite direction. She has ...

Concert etiquette

Dear Annie: I had something happen this weekend and am wondering what the solution should have been and who was in the right. My friend and I flew to San Diego from Indianapolis for a fabulous concert featuring three great bands. We spent quite a bit for our tickets, flights, hotel, car, ...

Feeling used

Dear Annie: I’m 64. I have known “Ashley” for seven years. She is a mother of two young boys, ages 7 and 5. In her early mommy years, she needed a lot of help. She would call me in the early mornings and ask whether I could care for the kids so she could go to work. I would make the long ...

An epidemic of loneliness

WASHINGTON — If Sen. Ben Sasse is right — he has not recently been wrong about anything important — the nation’s most-discussed political problem is entangled with the least-understood public health problem. The political problem is furious partisanship. The public health problem is ...

Reach out and annoy someone

Dear Annie: I own a small service business. We have a business phone number, but I also have a cellphone number. The latter is on my business card, and it is obviously the way people prefer to communicate. My problem is that customers don’t hesitate to call me or text me at any hour of the ...

Deciding between two men

Dear Annie: I am in my mid-20s, and I’ve found myself in a tough spot. I am seeing two men. “Mack” is around my age, and we’ve been dating for about a year. “John” is a married man and quite a bit older. Mack turned what I thought was a casual relationship into something serious ...

The irrationality of baseball fans

American philosopher Jerry Seinfeld famously exposed how irrational we American baseball fans must be: “Team loyalty is a kind of hard thing to justify, in the end. ... Every year, it’s different guys. ... You’re rooting for clothes, when you get right down to it. ... I want my team’s ...

RALPH JUNIOR LANSING

Ralph Junior Lansing, 84, of Fort Dodge, IA formerly of Perry, IA Ralph Junior Lansing, 84, of Fort Dodge, IA and formerly of Perry, IA passed away Thursday, October 18, 2018 at Friendship Haven in Fort Dodge. Funeral services will be 10:30 a.m. Monday, October 22, 2018 at First United ...

Why can’t we not be friends?

Dear Annie: My husband and I have become friends with another couple from church. They are very nice, but the wife is extremely controlling. My husband and I don’t feel as if they even know us, because the wife always interrupts and talks at me and in my face. We have tried to back off of the ...

Whether to fill parents in

Dear Annie: I wrote to you several months ago. I’m “Trapped by Parents.” I have a disability that has caused me to have great difficulty in both obtaining and retaining jobs. The resulting lack of income has forced me to live with my parents. My parents are obsessed with the idea that ...

Under attack

There was a time when Republicans and Democrats generally agreed that access to birth control was a public good. Most saw preventing unwanted pregnancies as key to making abortions rare. Those days are over. The Trump administration is indulging a religious hard right, helping it merge the ...

Problem son

Dear Annie: I am writing to you about the adult son of a friend of mine. This young man, “Dwayne,” has had a bad couple of years. He was kicked out of the military, divorced and had terrible child custody problems. My friend loves her son very much, but he is rather lazy. He has had several ...

Trolling vs. ‘constitutional knowledge’

WASHINGTON — On the road again, and full of indignation about, or perhaps admiration for, what he called “made-up” and “fabricated” Democratic accusations during the recent judicial confirmation turmoil, America’s feral president swerved into a denunciation of a nonexistent bill ...

Capitalism’s victory in Brazil

PARIS — What happened to America’s obsession with Latin America? During the Cold War, it was pretty much all we ever heard about on the foreign policy front. These days, it’s doubtful that U.S. leadership would spit on Latin America if it were on fire. It’s hard to believe that at one ...